In Seattle's local paper, The Stranger, there is a sex advice column called 'Savage Love'; as it is written by one Dan Savage. Among the many smart things Savage elucidates, GGG is an acronym and concept, coined by him.
GGG, from the Wikipedia:
'In his March 1, 2007 column, Savage summarized: "GGG stands for 'good, giving, and game,' which is what we should all strive to be for our sex partners. Think 'good in bed,' 'giving equal time and equal pleasure,' and 'game for anything—within reason.'"
In my provider travels, I've had several conversations in which hobbyists refer to the artificial, or pretend relationship in which we're engaging. I prefer the idea that any relationship one finds oneself in is a real one, it's all about where one sets the terms. In this context, GFE would fall under the heading of role play. ;} For which I am certainly game: I'd be happy to pretend that within a session… The real relationship however, would be the one around that, in which we'd discuss what sort of GFE we were wanting to play. Shall I make you a comfort food dinner at the end of your day? Be your arm candy at a high school reunion? Squeel with delight as you shower me with shoes? Ignore you after a hard day, as I read a book on the couch, clad in the same sweats I've been wearing for three days? Order you to carry my purse and buy me tampons, cat treats and a yam? The cliche of girlfriend can take many forms, not all of them equal fun for everyone…
In my practice, I find it more accurate to use the term GGG.
I interact with you as the real me.
I like sex, I like people, I enjoy a wide range of body and personality types, I like learning and playing, and experimenting… (I'm getting myself all worked up!) I'm Good at what I do, I get off on Giving pleasure and I'm Game to try new facets of this incredibly diverse realm: Human Sexuality. You may have things you've always wanted to try. I'd love to hear what they are, explore the concepts and very likely try whatever it is with you.
I find it ironic and delightful, that in this field, misunderstood far and wide for it's artificiality, I can be more myself than in any corporate or 'straight' job I've ever held.
Another invaluable lesson I've gleaned: whatever age, hairstyle, body shape, geekyness quotient I happen to be… a bunch of people think it's the hotness. How blessed am I to have learned *that* in this lifetime?!
See there, you got me singing a verse from my heartsong, and I've gone all rambly!
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This description of GGG was originally published, by me, on TRB.
